HOW TO BE A LOVER NOT A PROVIDER

It may be surprising to some of us getting to know the difference between being a provider and a lover, and in the process we will now realize that for a very long time we have been a provider for our girl friend or boyfriend, instead of focusing on the lover aspect.

Of no doubt, being a provider for your partner isn’t a way of being a lover for him or her, but the both seems to be similar but can’t be.

Most at times, we are expected to be a lover to our partner with a touch of provider, meaning that the “LOVER” aspect should come first before the “PROVIDER” aspect, but here most of us doesn’t know this and at times, it indirectly becomes the reason or the cause of our fail RELATIONSHIPs.

HOW TO BE A LOVER NOT A PROVIDER – Difference

For some of you who may be wanting to know what difference the two have, well here comes the difference between a “LOVER” and a “PROVIDER“.

*A “LOVER is one who loved and care for his partner. One who satisfies his or her partner interest without providing any thing for the person. Here comes the deeper explanation.

A LOVER is that partner who is always there to teach you how to stand strong on your way and become the best man or the best woman you could ever be, I stead of providing the necessary things needed for you to stand strong, for you.

A LOVER teaches you how to be self independent and make your own, without the aim of using you or being part of it, knowing too well you might get off from him or her when done, but still his or her best for you.

A LOVER is that one who teaches you have to fish instead of PROVIDING fish for you always whenever you need it.

A LOVER makes you happy by showing you how to depends on your self, but a PROVIDER does nothing but allow you depend on him or her.

HOW TO BE A LOVER NOT A PROVIDER – Tips

One of the best ways you can be a LOVER instead of being a PROVIDER is by teaching your partner how to be self independent either by words of encouragement or by creating her own channel of resources, and by always showing up whenever he or she wants.

Sometimes, we think that loving a guy or loving a lady is by giving him or her what he or she wants, this is why sometimes some RELATIONSHIP tores into apart, because we may keep on providing for our partner instead of giving him or her the rightful attention he or she wants, then thinking we are quite doing the rightful thing.

This comes especially in our present world where we think everything a woman wants or crave for in a man is nothing but his money, so with that mindset you may get engage with a beautiful lady who you will keep showing money every single day because you probably have it in abundant.

Then few months you will be shock to see her resignation letter from the relationship, then you begins to wonder what was the actual reason she left you. Not knowing that the fact that we may think that all the ladies want nothing but just money, doesn’t mean that it is every lady that want money.

The truth is that some women want love and attention, some doesn’t even value your money, they just want you to be a LOVER to them, and not a PROVIDER. Likewise to the men also.

So if you are the type that always think that the best way to please a lady or a woman is by providing for her, then you might not know that it is not all women are like that. If you are the type that always think that the best thing to offer to a man is your body of so, then you might be lacking behind also. Some men want you as a LOVER and not as a PROVIDER, so love them deep. Thanks