HOW CAN I BUILD A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE?
This must have been an active question running in the mind of some newly wedded couples as they may wish to have an everlasting married life with their partner. Though aside married people, some of us also wish and desire to have a fruitful and successful MARRIAGE in our lives, but then making this aim and wish come into reality becomes a hard task for us.
Yes this is definitely hard for us to keep in our world and society today which is why MARITAL PROBLEMS and DEVORCE has escalated to the level it is today. In a normal sense, no one wishes to have a fail marriage, a steady fight and qualms in his or her marital homes or even a DIVORCE, but then obeying the GOLDEN RULES TO KEEP YOUR MARRIAGE HEALTHY becomes absolute difficult and absent. Which is why DIVORCE is now taken politely.
But for the young and newly couples, the list below is a great way of building a successful marriage in the society. A marriage which can be admired by everyone, a marriage free from steady and regular problems and a marriage that will grant you the maximum PEACE OF MIND which everyone deserve especially in their matrimonial homes.
5 Ways Of Building A Successful Marriage
However, there are a lot of ways one can strategically build and have a Successful marriage, but below are few you can count in.
1: Don’t Necessarily Follow The Modern Rules Of Marriage Or Societal Ideas:
Actually without sounding favoritism to anyone or any kind of moral decadence in the society, this is one of the attribution of failed marriage or divorce in our society today.
The point is everyone want, desire and wishes to have an everlasting married life with his or her partner, but then no one wants to change his or her own strategy which is why we are still colliding at the same spot.
We are still obeying some rules set by people who we don’t know as a way of practicing marriage in the world or in our society.
There are some typical knowledge or rules the world have towards marriage, and these rules are what ruins our marriage but we are likely to fall into a doubt. We mustn’t follow all this rules in our own matrimonial homes, to my understanding most of these rules are not meant compulsory for every married couple, but we just adopt it thinking they are the best, then they destroy our marriage without our knowledge.
Now some or most of you may be pondering in wonders over this rules that the society have which kills our marriage but yet no one wants to change it, but such rules can never be understood with mere reasoning, they may just be like “a way of life” for you, so you can’t easily notice them.
A big example is how women is being treated in the society or in their matrimonial home over their act of childless issues which may not necessarily be their fault, yet their are being ill treated. This happens most especially when a woman doesn’t give birth to any gender in consideration as the heir to the house or so. I guess marriages where this issues happens barely have or enjoy PEACE OF MIND.
Aside this act of childless issues in a marriage, this rules of limiting what one does, wears or goes after marriage is totally wrong and plays a major roles towards all the marital problems and divorces happening around.
I’m not in anyway insinuating that you should keep living your old negative lives after getting married, NO, but at times what we limit others from doing is actually where such person finds his or her happiness in. And this act of limiting each other from doing most of these things is being introduced to us by the society.
They said it is the way of living in marriage and you must to follow the rules to have a successful marriage, meanwhile the rules contributes a lot towards the issues we are having in our marriage.
Another big example to this rules practiced by the society which in turn affect us is this act of stopping one from wearing some clothes which most of us sees as the act of irresponsibility.
Again, I’m not in anyway insinuating that you should dress rascal or weird as you may be dressing before your marriage, but not in total limitation. For dressing, I think there should be a little limitation which should be placed on both gender, and not just on women alone, such limitation should be able to mark your act of responsibility and commitment in your marriage, but it shouldn’t be much to avoid tempering with anyone’s happiness or so.
Actually in life, if you want to win big, become successful and great, you have to think aside the box different from the way society is thinking. You have to do things different from the way society is doing, no one will force you to obey any rules, this can be marked as the act of BEING DIFFERENT FROM THE CROWD.
This implies in the aspect of marriage too, you don’t Necessarily have to obey or follow the societal rules or ideas, to have a successful marriage, you can apply yours to have a perfect definition of the marriage you wish and desires for.
2: Do Home Chores Together With Your Partner:
This is another aspect of societal beliefs and it is quite unfortunately that some of these beliefs started from the days of our fore fathers when one of our parents (always the mothers) had to endure a lot in her matrimonial homes and do all kinds of house chores without receiving any help from her partner.
This beliefs still exist in our society today which can be among the things causing problems to our various homes.
Though to some, this might not be a problem but we have to understand that for a successful and most especially peaceful marriage to be achieved, things has to be balanced equally to avoid getting one cheated or making one feel inferior in his or her matrimonial home.
Most of us believe that it is the work of a man to make money in the family while it is the work of a woman to make food and do all the home chores in the house without any single assist from the man, but to me it is a wrong idea. And this is why we keep fighting and having issues with our partners over irrelevant things in our homes.
To build a successful marriage that will grant you the maximum PEACE OF MIND you desire in your home, then you must learn to do chores together with your partner and not to relax in the parlor to watch football while leaving your wife in the kitchen to kill her self all in the name of cooking everything for you. Lol most of us can relate.
3: Make Important Plans And Decision With Your Partner:
Most at times we make plans and decision without the consultation of our partner simply because we have this “HEAD” and “TALE” ideas all in our head. We make decision without involving our partner which is likely to affect our marriage.
As you wishes and aspiring to build a successful and peaceful marriage, remember to always make important decisions and plans with your partner because it helps to achieve this aim. Don’t involve “HEAD” and “TALE” ideas in your home, you are equal with your partner.
4: Create A Channel Of Happiness With Your Partner:
As a couple who wishes and desires to build a successful marriage with your partner, you both must learn to create a channel of happiness together because this is quite essential for the growth of your marriage.
Happiness is one of the keys of healthy lives, but we must know that happiness won’t always be there in marriage as marriage is not a bed of roses, but full of thorns amd headache, lol.
So just as happiness won’t always be there because it comes and go, you should learn to do things that can bring that happiness back in your marital lives. Learn to make each other happy because HAPPINESS contribute also to a healthy marriage.
as a couple, you mustn’t be told on how you can bring this happiness in your home, you can apply which ever way you know that will work for you. But below is just a few tips you can add to your own knowledge
How To Create A Channel Of Happiness In Your Marriage.
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5: Be Committed To Your Marriage:
Actually a lot of people don’t really that the computer term “garbage in garbage out” is also applied in marriage as what you give is what you take.
The truth is that most of the marriages which everyone admires in the society gave their best towards building such level of love that bond them together. Though this process can be seen easy and simple, but it takes time to get to the target.
If you really wish to have successful marriage, then you need to show a great commitment towards your marriage and make it work. Marriage in other word can be seen as an investment which grows base on the number of commitment you put. This commitment should be mutual in order to get this result, it mustn’t base on one side, both of you have to invest your time, your ideas, and everything you have towards achieving this result.
Commitment in your marriage plays a big role towards making your marriage successful and admirable by the people. Keep committed to your home and see the love become more stronger.
6: Honesty And Transparency:
This is a great key to this task, you have to be honest to your partner, be open to him or her and avoid holding any secret that can get your marriage in risk when such secret explode.
Confide in your partner and build this love, Relationship and Marriage together, for the betterment of your future. Thanks.
NOTE: As this can be a great way of achieving a successful marriage with your partner, this is also applicable to those in a RELATIONSHIP world, you can also use the same means for a successful relationship with your partner which will definitely leads to marriage.
As said in the beginning, there are several ways one can build a successful marriage that is free from fight, problems and divorce, as one can go by his or her own self method that can work, but the above list are extra BUTTER you can add to your BREAD to make it more YUMMY, thanks.