Relationship
Tips On How To Be A Lover Not A Provider
HOW TO BE A LOVER NOT A PROVIDER
It may be surprising to some of us getting to know the difference between being a provider and a lover, and in the process we will now realize that for a very long time we have been a provider for our girl friend or boyfriend, instead of focusing on the lover aspect.
Of no doubt, being a provider for your partner isn’t a way of being a lover for him or her, but the both seems to be similar but can’t be.
Most at times, we are expected to be a lover to our partner with a touch of provider, meaning that the “LOVER” aspect should come first before the “PROVIDER” aspect, but here most of us doesn’t know this and at times, it indirectly becomes the reason or the cause of our fail RELATIONSHIPs.
HOW TO BE A LOVER NOT A PROVIDER – Difference
For some of you who may be wanting to know what difference the two have, well here comes the difference between a “LOVER” and a “PROVIDER“.
*A “LOVER is one who loved and care for his partner. One who satisfies his or her partner interest without providing any thing for the person. Here comes the deeper explanation.
A LOVER is that partner who is always there to teach you how to stand strong on your way and become the best man or the best woman you could ever be, I stead of providing the necessary things needed for you to stand strong, for you.
A LOVER teaches you how to be self independent and make your own, without the aim of using you or being part of it, knowing too well you might get off from him or her when done, but still his or her best for you.
A LOVER is that one who teaches you have to fish instead of PROVIDING fish for you always whenever you need it.
A LOVER makes you happy by showing you how to depends on your self, but a PROVIDER does nothing but allow you depend on him or her.
HOW TO BE A LOVER NOT A PROVIDER – Tips
One of the best ways you can be a LOVER instead of being a PROVIDER is by teaching your partner how to be self independent either by words of encouragement or by creating her own channel of resources, and by always showing up whenever he or she wants.
Sometimes, we think that loving a guy or loving a lady is by giving him or her what he or she wants, this is why sometimes some RELATIONSHIP tores into apart, because we may keep on providing for our partner instead of giving him or her the rightful attention he or she wants, then thinking we are quite doing the rightful thing.
This comes especially in our present world where we think everything a woman wants or crave for in a man is nothing but his money, so with that mindset you may get engage with a beautiful lady who you will keep showing money every single day because you probably have it in abundant.
Then few months you will be shock to see her resignation letter from the relationship, then you begins to wonder what was the actual reason she left you. Not knowing that the fact that we may think that all the ladies want nothing but just money, doesn’t mean that it is every lady that want money.
The truth is that some women want love and attention, some doesn’t even value your money, they just want you to be a LOVER to them, and not a PROVIDER. Likewise to the men also.
So if you are the type that always think that the best way to please a lady or a woman is by providing for her, then you might not know that it is not all women are like that. If you are the type that always think that the best thing to offer to a man is your body of so, then you might be lacking behind also. Some men want you as a LOVER and not as a PROVIDER, so love them deep. Thanks
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4 Tips On How To Be A Submissive Husband
Sometimes what makes love more sweet, more amazing worthy of emulation, and long lasting isn’t the romantical part of it, neither is it the financial stability of the man in the marriage, but the act of submissiveness.
As a man, learning how to be a submissive husband towards your wife and towards your family is one of the best techniques you can apply to keep your home and marriage on track.
In fact, I Bright Tobias has always maintained that untill men learn how to be a submissive husband to their wives, and start putting it into practice, the rate of marital problems and divorce will keep increasing thereby causing fear among the young teens who wishes to embrace the union.
However, in a journey of learning how to be a submissive husband, one must learn and master the act of humility, the act of kindness, sympathy, endurance, love and most especially patience.
A submissive husband is a husband who knows how to love his wife.
A submissive husband is a husband who knows how to tolerate and be patient with his wife when provoked.
A submissive husband is a husband who knows how to love his wife unconditionally in every situation.
So you must master the act of kindness, sympathy, endurance, patience, humility and love before you can stay submissive to your wife or spouse.
How To Be A Submissive Husband
As being a strong headed husband has tire you and you are finally opting to be a submissive husband to your wife, I must say you have done the rightful thing, because women tends to love men who stays humble and submissive to them than men who takes them for granted.
So below are four tips on how to be a submissive husband so your wife will keep being more submissive to you too.
1: Respect Your Wife:
In every marriage, Respect is one of the things all parties owe to each other, irrespective of your status in the marriage or family, whether man or woman, you owe each other respect to the fullest.
Well, one of the things that makes marriage sounds funny in our present day society is the inability of many men to respect their wife.
Respect present here isn’t just the normal respect, but the respect that comes when your woman makes some certain decision and you keep to it without the society mindset of being the “head” of the family.
Marriage demands that as a man, you must learn and be willing to be submissive to your wife, and one of the ways of being submissive to your wife is by respecting some of her decision.
Sometimes allow her to make the rules without interfering. Sometimes allow her to take the lead without feeling threaten of your position.
In fact I must say, one of the things destroying so many marriages in the society is the societal believe that women doesn’t have a say in their marriage. Women truly have a say.
A woman can see you as a submissive husband or partner when some of her decisions in the home start getting respected and taken than being objected because women are believed not to have a say.
So one of the ways of being a submissive husband is by respecting your woman and some of her decisions.
2: Being Loyal To Your Wife:
Most marriages ended up in separation as a result of the men not being loyal to their wives. And sometimes this always bring a huge problem to the home especially when the woman is tired of enduring it alone. One day she may spark up, it may end up in chaos, who knows.
Well, if you wishes to be submissive to your wife, make sure you stay loyal to her and act like one being owned. This won’t only extend the lifespan of your marriage, but it will bring more of the same loyalty and respect from her too.
3: Tolerance:
Marriage requires a lot of tolerance from the both parties, not just from the wife alone. You must learn to tolerate your wife in a bad or good state.
Sometimes women can be annoying, it will be for your own interest and interest of your family to tolerate her till the end, as she will see you as one being submissive to her. So you must master the act of tolerance and more to be able to have a beautiful marriage ahead.
4: Love
A submissive husband is a husband that so much love his wife and will do everything to please her.
I have always maintained that marriage is not a war, marriage is problem and marriage shouldn’t be feared to practice.
In fact the holy bible of Christians described marriage as a beautiful union of two people. But unless you get a mental reformation and distance your self from the societal norms, beliefs and ideologies, you will never see the beauty part of marriage.
There must be love present for a man to be submissive to his wife. Too much of love shown to women is what some called “spell” or “voodoo” but I think for one to be able to practice love properly, you must be under a spell. So don’t be worried when the society say you are under a spell just because you are giving your wife or partner the best of love and affection she deserves. It really shows you truly love her and you are submissive to her.
Conclusion
There are different ways on how to be a submissive husband to your wife, but the above mentioned options are among the the few things to do.
You must learn to respect your respect your wife always irrespective of what the society is saying about it.
You must master the act of loyalty to your wife. Wives aren’t the only one meant to be submissive to husband by being loyal to them, men also owe their wives loyalty and that’s a sign of a submissive husband.
You must learn to tolerate your wife or partner and ignore the advice the society is giving.
And lastly you must learn to always love your wife in all aspects of life and always be by her side. I wish you best of luck in your marital journey. Bright Tobias is rooting for you.
Do You Believe In Love At First Sight?
The question, “Do You Believe In Love At First Sight” is actually directed to you, I mean you that is reading this, and of course an answer is expected from you, do you really believe in love at first sight?. Do you believe that two people can really fall in love with each other just the same day they met each other?, Do you believe that you personally can develop a feeling for someone you just met and start falling YAKATA for them?
Well, before giving me your answer, let’s take some seconds talk about the “LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT“.
Love At First Sight
Before Nodding whether in favour of love at first sight or nodding in disagree with it, the question is what exactly is love at first sight?.
Well, love at first sight is a sudden love developed after seeing someone for the first day and first time. This is a love often seen as infatuation and sometimes, hardly work out based on the circumstances surrounding it.
Love At First Sight – Circumstances
What are the circumstances surrounding this love at first sight?, Well most of the things that happens at first sight is being considered as an infactuation and rarely yield fruit simply because this is an arousal of feelings.
This is love that shows up mostly when you sees someone and start developing personal admiration for him or her immediately. And as we know feelings can vanish at anytime especially when personal aims has been achieved. So at this point, all the parties involved get tired of each other simply because feelings was the only circumstances surrounding such love.
Well having talk a bit about love at first sight, let’s jump back to our formal question which says, do you believe in love at first sight? Do you really believe?
Do You Believe In Love At First Sight
Well before giving us your opinion, let me lead first. I totally believe in love at first sight. I believe that true love can exist in the midst of two lovers who just sees each other.
At first it could be infactuation and about feelings or whatever anyone could think of, but when worked out properly, it could turn into something positive. It’s all about your mindset and your intention of falling in love at the first place.
Beauty can attract you towards someone and took advantage of it positively and ended being the best of its kind. It’s just for you to explore other aspects of the love before the proposal.
Many times it is said that beauty can take you into a marriage, and character will take you out. But what happens when beauty takes you into a marriage and you still have a good and well mannered character?, I guess nothing else is likely to take you out. This is what happens when you try to take advantage of the love at first sight positively, instead of achieving your aims and satisfying your feelings and kicking off. It doesn’t sound good bro/sis.
So to me Bright Tobias, I believe in love at first, how about you? Do you believe?. Let’s hear your opinion on the comment section.
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Truth Or Dare Blog Game
Truth Or Dare Blog Game are fun and a bit fr*aky games used by bloggers to welcome and as well entertain their readers and audience. This gaming activities varies from type by type as they are mainly composed by the blog owners to entertain their audience, and must align to their preferred niche or blogging subject.
However, the end-point of this game is to asses people’s personality and know their inner worth which might not have been shared to others.
Truth Or Dare Blog Game
Truth Or Dare blog Game which can be simply shorten as truth or dare game is mainly to impose your ideas on whoever you are playing it with to either dance on your toe or expose part of their secret, as youths mainly plays this.
This game is just about asking whoever you are playing it with to either choose to say something truthful and wholeheartedly or be dared to do something out of their personal will.
However, even though this games is always been taken to the negative side especially when being played by the youths, as they sees it as the only games they use in asking some fr*aky and nasty questions and naughty dares, but then there also positive aspect of the truth or dare blog game. I think this is about those playing it.
How To Play Truth Or Dare Blog Game/Truth Or Dare Game
Truth or dare game can be played by multiple people starting with two people on the scene. This can be played by people of the same gender or people of the opposite gender, it all about the intention of it.
Is Truth Or Dare Blog Game Good Or Bad?
I can’t say truth or dare game is bad, neither will I say it’s good, the outcome is all about the intention of indulging in the game.
However, in as much as this particular games is being played by many teenagers who are just growing up and exploring LIFE, thereby getting influenced through it’s activities, it is also good to know that this game can be seen as a therapeutic and practical method of killing boredom in a RELATIONSHIP or MARRIAGE. You just have to play it with the right person to get the best of it.
Well aside this, let’s specifically talk about the good and bad aspect of truth or dare blog game, starting with the bad aspect.
Truth Or Dare Game – Bad Aspect
This particular truth or dare game has contributed highly towards the mind pollution of some teenagers who keep on practicing what they learnt from the games. In some cases, the teenagers who indulge in playing this games end up developing quick feelings for whoever they played it with which isn’t right at their age. And many more.
Truth Or Dare Game – Good Aspect
This beautiful game can also help couples and those in a RELATIONSHIP know and understand themselves well as they intend to answer some deeper questions asked by their partner.
Aside this, truth or dare game also help in having fun and spending time with your partner without knowing, and spending time with your partner contributes a lot towards the growth of every RELATIONSHIP and union. This and more are the good aspect of playing this truth or dare game.
Truth Or Dare Blog Game – Conclusion
In as much as truth or dare game is a popular game almost everyone play, there are people who still lag behind and maybe haven’t done or played it before.
MY ADVICE: If you are in a RELATIONSHIP and wishes to keep watering your union, then consider learning more about the game and playing it with your partner. But mind you, play it with your only partner as Bright Tobias does not support cross dating or any form of cheating, Thank you and stay blessed.