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What Defines You Is Not About What People Think Of You, But Who You Are



As the headline goes, what really defines who you are and your personality is not about what people think of you in the society, is not about what people say about you in the society, not about what people consider you to be or what they think you may be, rather what defines you is who you are. Your personality and what you do.

This is the act of living personal, simple and unique. Though you may not be very much unique or different from others, but living base on what you want and how you want it is your true personality.

What Defines You?

What defines you

There are a lot of things that defines people, both talents, skills and different qualities or gift which some of them comes by nature, and exploring the natural good ones to exhibit them without the fear of exaggeration is the definition of YOU.

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This has come against many people who now downgrade themselves from the initial point they keep themselves just because they pay attention to the rate given to them by the people and the society at large. Know your worth and your personality.

Rate your self base on who you are because that is the definition of YOU, that’s what defines who you are. Those qualities, skills, characters or gift you have which doesn’t seems to correspond with that of your play mates and peer group, they worth your personality.

No matter what the people say about those gift, about those character or about those personality, as long as it worth it in the sight of God, keep hold of it. No one make a decision for you, your world belong to your life, so live it base on her it pleases you.

This points towards living unique and different from your peers, leaving a separate mark in the dashboard. That’s the signs that you are living according to who you are, that’s the signs that you are truly who you are and not an imitation of another personality.

The peers, friends and the society at large have a full capability of removing YOU from you and replacing the YOU with THEM in you. The force is quite much, the pressure is always high, but then does it record any merit?, I think capital NO has the answer.

For one to act in the influence of his or her peers is a perfect example of such force and pressure. It may seems easy to say tho but very hard to be avoided, that is why you are advised to place some limit on your peers and mind the ones you keep around.

But then, you are different and exceptional from the crowd, but you are being considered as one of the crowd, or you are being regarded as “wayward” simply because they don’t understand who you are.

They tag you something different from who you are because your personality doesn’t suit to their liking, because they have no knowledge about you so they assume you are what you are not. But then what should be your reaction?. To react over what or who they think you are?, to get angry?. I’m sure you are beginning to know the best, of course you shouldn’t react.

Don’t let what people think of you disturb you, don’t give yourself some emotional punishment simply because people have different view of you other than the true view of yourself. Don’t be disturbed with people’s words and comment about you.

Ignore them and believe yourself. Yeah that is the only way to stay happy amidst of those trolling and ill words and comments about you. Don’t try convincing people to believe the right one because you can’t succeed if your intention is to make everyone love you, the impossibility of making it happen is 0 percent because no matter how you try, you can’t convince everyone in liking you or believing in you.

It’s a choice to believe in who you are or not, if they can’t, then others will. Continue to be positive and be the original copy of yourself. There shouldn’t be any schedule time in your clock to start checking who believe in you and who doesn’t.

Be positive, make yourself happy and move on regardless of what they say, enjoying your world is definitely your responsibility. Enjoy it to the fullest.


5 ways Of Getting Rid Of Anger Easily



5 ways of getting rid of anger

5 Ways Of Getting Rid Of Anger.

It will definitely be hard to see anyone who claims he or she doesn’t get angry, that will be one of the most expensive lie for one to say such. This is actually because getting angry is part of human being. As long as one is fully intact in his or her sense organ, then getting angry is a simple task to mention.

Anger is actually a result of provocation in one’s life. It shows the negative side of people when being provoked. The exhibition of anger is actually based on different entities and different personalities who reacts in a different ways.

Some people when being provoked by someone, they will suddenly go insane and start pouring their negative side out. These negative side being exhibited are always in form of actions or spoken words.

While some have built the attribute which enables them to easily get rid of the anger. This is actually based on the individual involved as everyone have different personalities and different ways of reacting towards anger.

However, just as it may sound, ANGER is such a dangerous and bad feeling which can make someone to exhibit a weird action or behavior which he or she may start regretting few hours later. Most of the actions done when being angry are usually bad and those involved in such actions always regret it at the end.

3 Ways Of Securing Your Peace Of Mind

However, in order to avoid exhibiting a behavior or action that may hinder your joy or happiness later when being calmed, it is best you control your ANGER initially before things go wrong. Though trying to control your anger or trying to get rid of it is one of the most difficult personal task to do, but then the end is always joyful and amazing.


5 ways of getting rid of anger

Below are five ways you can get rid of your anger to avoid regretting your action later.

1: Avoid The Cause Of Your Anger:

One of the best and easiest way of getting rid of your anger is by moving out from the cause of your anger. This simply means avoiding or totally staying away from the cause of your anger.

Most at times we react over our angry mood because after getting provoked, we still stay at the same place with the cause of our anger thereby leaving the whole scenario in our head. And when this happen, self control becomes quite difficult to apply.

So base on your mood and how you react towards anger, if you really want to avoid things that you are likely to regret after getting anger, the best way to do that is to stay away from such problem. That is, stay away from the cause of your anger and stay somewhere else to refresh your memory and stay happy.

2: Avoid Much And Annoying Argument:

Some arguments when angry can be a cause of bad reaction but people may not understand. This entails that engaging in argument when your heart and inner parts have already heated with anger can cause a weird reaction from you.


When you get provoked by someone, don’t try arguing with him or her in order to prove a point of not being guilty or so, rather stay calm to maintain your sanity.

With the high heated anger boiling in your heart facing the argument which makes no sense to you, the outcome can be regretful. So in order to avoid shouting “had I known” at the end, you have to avoid it in time

3: Play Music:

Music is one of the things that helps people in staying happy and okay. It helps people in staying out from depression, anxiety and anger but people may not understand. Though this idea is not really for everyone, that is, it may not really work for everyone but it is a good remedy.

To some people, getting music beside them when they are angry or when they are moody can lift such mood from them. So if you are among those that like music a lot, you can try to play some cool songs when someone get you angry.

For it to work perfectly, stay far away from the cause of your anger, stay in open place where you see different things that can easily take your mind away from the previous cause of your anger and then put some hot dancing music, this will help in resetting your mood.

4: Watch Comedies Or Read Jokes:

All these can be a personal means of lifting your anger, but you may not understand.

Watching comedy videos or reading jokes can also serve as a good remedy to lift your mood from the state of ANGER and put it back to the default mode.

Try watching comedy or reading jokes or stories that will make you laugh out loud, by so doing, you are escaping from the negative side of you.

5: Take Your Bath:

At times taking your bath can also be a good remedy for anger but you may not understand.

Taking your bath can help your mind or mood in falling into default mode thereby lifting the anger from you.

At times when you seems to be sad over some situation or when you got provoked and get angry, after a while try taking a cool shower. The state of your mood will change after the long time shower.

All the above list are some personal ways of getting rid of your anger, though there are many of them but just to mention few.

However, just as they can serve as good remedy for anger, it is also important to know that sometimes none of them will work but this is based on the cause of your anger or the reason why you are sad. The situation at hand can hinder you from applying any or even stop the effectiveness towards quenching your heated heart.

The effectiveness of the above list is mainly based on the situation at hand. The effectiveness is based on the reason why you are sad or angry. In some minor cases or reasons, the list can serve effective but in some deeper cases, it may not.

But above all, try as much as possible to stay out of anger, because the results or the outcomes are always regretful.

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PEACE OF MIND: 3 Ways Of Securing Your Peace Of Mind Amidst Of Troubles And Tribulations



Definition Of Peace Of Mind.

Peace of mind is the inner most joy that comes out from one as a result of excessive accumulation of peace, happiness and internal joy. Peace of mind are the joy that sustains you amidst of troubles and tribulations. They are those things essential for human peaceful growth but when being impaired, can cause depression, angony and sad.

Peace of mind is essential in human growth which is why you are advised never to trade it with any other thing, because it shows the positive side of you.

In thousand cases, when this peace of mind is being taken from you, depression, sad and sometimes sorrow becomes a replacement. They are important in everyone’s life which is why some people can do anything in life just to make sure they keep their self happy.

Peace of mind are important tressure in life which can be considered as the greatest among Silver and Gold. Though a lot of people will still choose silver and gold over their happiness, several people will choose silver and gold over their peace of mind, but it is likely to be a weird act. Those that understand it can never trade their peace of mind with any other things, even if they are to do it to get what they want, at least it won’t be for a long time.

Happiness matters in everyone’s life, everyone in life deserve to be happy. Everyone needs peace of mind in their life, married people want peace of mind in their homes, students wants peace of mind in their academics, business people want peace of mind in their business and so on and so forth. The world we all live in needs peace of mind too, to stay peaceful and accommodate everyone. The importance of PEACE OF MIND in a person’s life can’t be over emphasized.

But taking a walk down the society, you will notice how people tremble upon other people’s joy, how people tremble upon other people’s happiness without any consideration. Yeah, we live in a society where the rich use the peace of the poor to gain more peace. In other word, the rich uses the poor to gain more wealth regardless of their deprivation of peace of mind.

Peace of mind can’t be bought and at times can’t be given by money, they are driven internally by doing what you love most, by doing what makes you happy and by deciding to be happy. Yes, you have to decide for your own happiness before it can come to you.

Deciding for your happiness may be in the days of troubles, in the days of tribulations and in the days of agony, you have to stick to your mind and maintain that positive thoughts you have. Though it can be hard to stay happy amidst of all the troubles and tribulations coming to you, but you have to try your best. You have to choose this for your self to stay happy because happiness are truly essential for human growth.

But you depriving people their happiness, you depriving people their peace, what’s the need?, what’s the point for that?. Live and let others live, stop caging people to suit your interest, stop trembling upon people’s peace of mind. Live and let others live. By that way, you are helping the world health organization (WHO) in reducing the number of depressed patience, by so doing you are showing LOVE to humanity and by so doing, you are making the world an example of how and what God created it for.


Peace of mind

Peace of mind

This is actually one of the hard self task to do, because staying happy amidst of troubles and tribulations can only be imagined, it is so difficult to do.

To be realistic, it is absolutely not possible to stay happy amidst of troubles, tribulations, sad, agony and when being in the state of depression. But “try” or “trying” can be a good option. Yeah, you just need to try and stay happy, trying to stay happy in those moments is the only option you can use to maintain those positive vibes, just try.

However, below are few tips that can help you stay happy and maintain your peace of mind amidst of troubles and tribulations that comes your way.

1: Stay Away From The Cause Of Your Anger:

This is of no doubt one of the best way you can control your anger and as such, keeping your insanity intact. And by keeping your insanity intact, you are also keeping hold of your peace of mind to avoid trouble.

Many people at times get troubled, loose their insanity simply because they refuse moving an inch from the cause of their anger. They get upset by someone and still stand on the same place with the person thereby keeping the whole scenario on their head.

Consider changing position if you notice your peace of mind being trembled upon, consider changing position if you start loosing your insanity, to avoid loosing it all and start acting weird, change location and maintain your PEACE OF MIND intact.

2: Stop Engaging In Unnecessary Argument:

One of the codes of those that live quietly happy is “avoiding unnecessary argument”. Yes don’t engage your self in unnecessary arguments that doesn’t worth your strength.

Engaging in argument is quite a normal one, but engaging in some argument that matters not to you, is such a waste of time and a bad one. This is because some arguments will actually end up getting you emotional and psychological drain up thereby affecting your peace. Avoid engaging in arguments that worths nothing, arguments that you will engage in and at the end you start feeling headache, feverish and tired, avoid them.

3: Stop Trying To Win All The Arguments:

Don’t be the type that always operate on “it’s either I win or we keep talking”, don’t be the type that always say that if they don’t want to believe your point, then no need of stopping the argument.

Things I understand about “ARGUMENT” is that it is either you believe them or you leave. It is done out of will, not force. Everyone have their beliefs, point of views and different understanding. Stop forcing others to believe on your ground, because by so doing, you will end up talking too much and having a mouth pain which may deprive your peace.

So by staying away from the cause of your anger, by avoiding unnecessary arguments and by trying not to win all Arguments, you will help your self in keeping your PEACE OF MIND. Thanks.

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Don’t Loose Your Value Over The Little They Offers You – Know Your Value



Value: Just as we believe, half bread is better than None, but sometimes NONE can be better than the half. This is a proverb that requires deep understanding to be able to understand and digest it.

Quite bad some people can’t give you something freely now without seeking for an alternative way to collect it back. That is, when people give you work, they look for a way to take advantage of you in order to satisfy their selfish interest at the cost of your own happiness and personality.

Some really want to shape you to their test simply because they are rendering help to you, some want you to be “under dog ” to them simply because they are contributing to you in one way or the other. I’m not told about it, no one said this to me, I realize it my self. I observe it my self, I have experience it a lot and I keep wondering why people are so. Should I say it is NATURE?.

Those on top will like those below them to be oppressed and keep being low to them, they will like those under them to keep answering “under dog” to them simply because they haven’t come up to the state of being like them.

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I grew up observing a lot on how innocent people are being taken advantage of, how the rich uses the poor as their slaves and at their expense of their happiness, especially in this part of the world I come from.

The rich make a token of money offer to the poor and still taken advantage of their values, take advantage of their human right and the respect they ought to have as a human being.

“No one cares on those things”, “money is the power”, “money is the Koko”, “the greater” and all in all, that is the mentality those whose values and respect are being traded with in exchange of a token of amount, do operate on.

They heard that half is better than NONE, so they prefer half than having none, they prefer the job over their happiness, they prefer token of money over their values and human rights which will be trembled upon.

If it will cost your happiness, kindly take your leave.


Stop depending on the half of the bread over your values and respect, sometimes NONE is far better than the half.

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A proverb from the igbo side says, “instead of you to give me excess drink that will make me fall on the road, it is better you don’t give me any”. In other words, instead of giving me half bread that I can’t be able to eat and enjoyed with my values, respect and human right, it is better you give me NONE.

Don’t loose your right, don’t loose your respect and don’t loose your values because of the little offer given to you. Don’t prefer getting half from them at the expense of your happiness, at the expense of your respect and at the expense of your value, CHOOSE NONE over it.

Am not going contrary to the case of being submissive and loyal to your boss till you achieve your aim, but some of the bosses take advantage of people a lot. Some of the so called bosses have their several tricks and several ways of using and dumping people. I’m not writing based on what I heard or what people said, i’m writing based on what I see around the society, i’m writing from experience.

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Yes, no one can deny it, it does happen everywhere most especially in this part of the world I come from. And it’s so appalling…

But you can definitely cut it shot. As I always advice, if it will cost your happiness, kindly take your leave… If it will cost your value, bro take u-turn..

NONE can be OK for you than getting such a token in a bad manner, seek alternative and enjoy your happiness and keep your value intact. Thanks

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